I've been honest on this blog - island life hasn't been a cakewalk. There was a stretch I was crying every night out of homesickness, and I've had to dig into the ol' bag of tricks more often than usual lately.
So in the spirit of putting a positive spin on things, here is a simple blog post on the top 10 things I do when I feel like the walls are closing in. Enjoy!
1. Do 'dem nails.
Sure a professional mani and pedi is nice, but when you are on a budget and it's 10pm on a Thursday night, completing the task yourself is the only option. Not only do you walk away feeling prettier and more put together, but the actual process of filing and painting is quite therapeutic for me.
You can call me shallow, but the first step for me feeling better on a night like this is to make something on the pretty on the outside.
2. Curl up with a book.
Go ahead, escape. Lose yourself in someone else's drama. Curl up in bed or in the corner cushion of a couch and just get lost. If you have read this blog consistently, you know I am typically a fan of the Non Fiction variety - but on nights where I can't find my soul, the last thing I want to do is try to improve it. Now pass me the wine glass for item #3...
3. Pour yourself a drink.
Whether it's a wine glass filled to the brim, a cup of chamomile tea, or a shot of tequila (I'm in Mexico goddammit) just enjoy the process. Don't drink it blindly. Light some candles or incense, and as with #2 on the list, grab your book and your glass, curl up, and just appreciate being cozy. You might not have life figured out, but at least you can sit down and relax.
4. Make a list of things you are grateful for.
DON'T KNOCK IT TILL YOU'VE TRIED IT. It's not cheesy, it's not a waste of time, it's actually completely necessary. In fact, I will enter into a challenge with you: If you are in a bad mood, and you actually sit down and try to do this for 10 minutes and you DON'T come out on the other end with a little lighter heart, then I will personally buy you your next bottle of whatever for your next down in the dumps night.
5. Pick an affirmation and put that shit on repeat.
Trick your mind! It's what got you into this mess in the first place...
It can be a bible verse, it can be a mantra, it can be a meditation, whatever it is, just add it to whatever task you are currently doing and hang onto it for dear life. Say it until you fall asleep, doodle it in your journal, whatever. Just flood your mind with something other than how much you hate wallowing in your current state of self pity.
6. Bake (or cook).
I know this one won't work for everyone, but getting in the kitchen and making a beautiful mess is super therapeutic for me. Not to mention, a lot of the time I make too much food so I end up cooking for someone else by default, which is clearly selfless AF. Look at me, all giving and shit.
7. Take a long bath or shower.
Rinse off the filth, sister. If you have a bathtub then that's ideal. You can combine #2 and #3 here...add some epsom salts and light some candles and settle in. If you are like me and the Universe has conspired against you for a year and the last 3 places you have lived don't have a bathtub, a shower will do just fine. I like to make it uncomfortably hot (pain is a distraction in my book) and sit on the floor of the shower and think. I've solved most of the world's problems in my head this way. Plus if you cry it's okay cause water/tears...same diff. (Did I go too dark there? Oh well...)
Side note on this one: in the non creepiest way ever, if you do this one, let me know so I can live vicariously through you. Not only do we not have a tub, but the shower doesn't get hotter than luke warm here, so throw me a bone.
8. Plan out your day.
No secret here that I am a planner! Tomorrow is a new day, and planning it out satisfies my type A side and my control freak side. Hey - I told you these help me, I didn't say they were "healthy" ways to beat a bad night...
9. Throw on SportsCenter.
I just lost you didn't I? Sorry, it's really a thing for me. When boys used to break my heart, or I felt like no one understood me, the humming of sportscasters voices used to soothe me to sleep. I don't know what it was but it worked. I suppose you could insert any type of TV here. Keeping up with the Kardashians, Real Housewives, shit I don't know. Just let yourself binge dude.
10. Let yourself feel shitty.
Stop fighting it. Yes, the previous 9 things will take your mind off the suckyness for a while, but you will probably come in and out of said suckyness and beating yourself up doesn't do anyone any good. So allow yourself this night to be a whiny bitch. Then tomorrow it will all be out of your system and you can take that detailed list you made in #8 and KILL IT.
Let it happen, and then pick yourself up and move on. You got this.
So that's it! Nothing earth shattering, but I get inspired when I see posts like this so maybe you will too. As always, let me know what you think and if you have anything to add to the list.